You know, I think you're totally right! O.o It's kind of pathetic, since I don't think of myself as unfriendly, but I think that a lot of it is just cluelessness/not thinking about things the right way.
Admittedly, I am really bad about responding to LJ comments even in general. I tend to prefer responding in person or on instant messenger, and sometimes when I don't respond initially, I space out on going back.
Also, I think the main reason I haven't responded to your comments is because I just realized JUST NOW that you friended me--I'm not sure when you did it, whcih kind of is a testament to how spacy and clueless I am ^^;; I don't think you ever posted a comment introducing yourself or telling me you were friending me, so the times that I have read your comments I have assumed they were from a lurker/someone just visiting since I had no idea who you are. I'm not trying to justify or excuse my ignoring you, since looking back I totally shouldn't have. But I do think that if you friend someone you should comment and say that you are and why.
I'm really sorry for coming off so frigid since I didn't mean to ^^; You're really nice for sticking around even after I ignored you a lot--why did you keep me friended? o.O;
As for meeting-friends advice, I am sadly not 21 yet and don't have time yet for volunteering or clubs, but maybe over winter break I'll try something ^^ The internet is definitely an amazing tool, too <3 I just feel like interacting a lot online has the potential to make real life contact feel less necessary...which is kind of hard if you don't have many real life friends.
Anyway--I'll add you back, I'm sorry I didn't really respond to you sooner, I didn't mean to be rude. I would like to think that if someone in person were tryign to become my friend I would actually catch on and welcome them, but seriously I don't know o.O; I'd at least like to hope that if I'm standoffish, it's from just being clueless, not because I'm trying to be mean or whatever.
Thanks for actually making me think about this!! It was long due I think.
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Admittedly, I am really bad about responding to LJ comments even in general. I tend to prefer responding in person or on instant messenger, and sometimes when I don't respond initially, I space out on going back.
Also, I think the main reason I haven't responded to your comments is because I just realized JUST NOW that you friended me--I'm not sure when you did it, whcih kind of is a testament to how spacy and clueless I am ^^;; I don't think you ever posted a comment introducing yourself or telling me you were friending me, so the times that I have read your comments I have assumed they were from a lurker/someone just visiting since I had no idea who you are. I'm not trying to justify or excuse my ignoring you, since looking back I totally shouldn't have. But I do think that if you friend someone you should comment and say that you are and why.
I'm really sorry for coming off so frigid since I didn't mean to ^^; You're really nice for sticking around even after I ignored you a lot--why did you keep me friended? o.O;
As for meeting-friends advice, I am sadly not 21 yet and don't have time yet for volunteering or clubs, but maybe over winter break I'll try something ^^ The internet is definitely an amazing tool, too <3 I just feel like interacting a lot online has the potential to make real life contact feel less necessary...which is kind of hard if you don't have many real life friends.
Anyway--I'll add you back, I'm sorry I didn't really respond to you sooner, I didn't mean to be rude. I would like to think that if someone in person were tryign to become my friend I would actually catch on and welcome them, but seriously I don't know o.O; I'd at least like to hope that if I'm standoffish, it's from just being clueless, not because I'm trying to be mean or whatever.
Thanks for actually making me think about this!! It was long due I think.